Bite the tongue.

November 21, 2008

Today, my friend Edward told me about a conversation he witnessed after-school on Wednesday. Basically, 3 of my classmates were standing around, just chatting about random things. Edward didn’t pay much attention — until he heard one of them say, “Are you sure you’re brother’s not gay? I mean, seriously!”
The girl of the group cringed, then shook her head. “No, of course not!…” She paused for a moment. “Well, maybe.” At that point, all three burst into laughter.
One of the boys quipped up, “If I had a gay brother… Well…That’d be shit.”
“I know, right?” The girl replied, rolling her eyes. “I swear, if I found out my brother was gay, I would sit him down and torture him until he’s not gay. I couldn’t stand having a gay brother.”

If I was put in a situation where one of my friends said that, I’m not sure what I would do. I would be torn between bursting out into tears of frustration or giving someone a face full of fist.
My group of friends and I, we’ve very pro-gay rights — you would never hear the words “that’s so gay” passing through our lips. The “F” word doesn’t have the mainstream definition for me — I would say what I mean, however I think it’s not necessary (plus, typing it makes me feel sick, quite literally).
The problem is that it is suddenly so very normal to casually revile all things gay. It’s ingrained in society as part of normal, natural social speech. I can recall one Spanish class last year, in which one girl shrieked out “STOP BEING SO FRICKIN’ GAY!” at a boy who was poking around in her pencil-case. My eye actually twitched right after the sentence left her mouth, and my Aussie friend Lanora looked at the girl dead in the eye and said “How the hell would that make him gay?”
The girl huffed angrily, holding her pencil-case as the boy grinned from ear to ear. “God, ya’ll are so annoying!” She announced melodramatically. “You live in TRINIDAD! It’s part of the CULTURE! If you travel all over the goddamn world so much, you should get to know the culture you’re living in!”
At that time, I thought that this statement was complete idiocy and that the girl was just plainly silly. But now, I’ve been exposed to so much homophobia and seen so much attacks at even the slightest thing dubbed homosexual that I’ve begun to believe her words.
I just wish I could do something, anything, to let people know that even casual, unconscious gay-bashing is not acceptable, and that for god’s sake — it’s not like they’re not people, too. They have the same rights as us, they have the same needs as us. The only difference between the heterosexual and homosexual is who they are sexually attracted to. Don’t you have to ask yourself, Does it really matter? Should someone be ridiculed, mocked, and even abused just because they are in love with someone — who just happens to be of the same gender?
The most amusing thing is that I go to an international school — one which is supposedly exposed to a variety of different cultures and beliefs. You’d think that a school full of a rich medley of youths would be more open-minded. Sure, we all respect each other’s cultures — race isn’t at all an issue. However, the ones who take great offense to, and do not tolerate, racial insults being pelted against them have no problem pelting homophobic derisions against others.

And yes, maybe this is just an overly-dramatic post. Maybe I’m being overly sensitive and a bit too apathetic. But I’m tired of brushing these things away. Sure, I can take the occasional “oh, *insert guy’s name here*’s so gay, lolol” — I mean, it may irk me for a milisecond (enough time for a friend and I to exchange disgusted glances), and if the person has good intent, then hell, I might throw in a giggle or two myself — after all, no harm’s been done and I’m all for freedom of speech. It’s when they’re serious with their bashing that I have to grit my teeth and bite my tongue.


2 Responses to “Bite the tongue.”

  1. eddmah said

    Well said. Those classmates of ours are just plain stupid. They don’t realize that they are hating 11% of the world and won’t get anywhere outside of their little bubbles.

  2. 3limes said

    Do not bite your tongue and don’t ever question that your are being over dramatic. This is a very important issue and one that I feel passionate about. You are ahead of the game for being so advanced in your thinking. I wish many others could catch up with you.

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